Well dropped a mini bomb on her this morning. Looking at a new job and the medical/dental insurance is twice as much for a family plan (3 or more) than for just me and my daughter. Text her to look into getting her own insurance. Told her my rates are changing and I don't think she should be on mine. She called me back almost immediately, I didn't answer but she left a very nervous voicemail. Says that there should be no difference with BC/BS for a family of 1 or more (she's wrong) and that she can't get on full time at her work, but she is looking (lie) and as long as we're married I should keep her on. But I'll look and see. I waited 15 minutes and text her back with , it is nearly twice as much for the family plan as it would be for me and D. Married? She called back in a heartbeat, no message this time. I had talked to my lawyer who says I absolutely have this right to contact her about this. No mention of D or Sep has come up from her to anybody. Based on the tone of her voice in the message and emphasizing the "family " plan and as long as we're married I should be on" I think I struck a nerve. The thought of this kept me awake all night. Was I wrong to do this? I am thinking that I needed to do something with regard to relationship communication from me that doesn't really say D or S, but puts an underlying tone of her situation. Finacially she is in real bad shape, she seems to be letting things just fall around her. I am told she needs to hit rock bottom before she'll start to come around, is this true? Have any of the WAW's reading ths been through this and what was your reaction? Would a comment like this get you to at least think a little deeper about her situation versus being with her family? Get her thinking about what she had as opposed to now, what she's got or doesn't? Need to know if this was agood move. Can't wait to find out about the job, it will be a huge lift and great change for me....
