Someone who doesnt care anymore doesnt leave "looking like a beaten up child". He keeps trying and you slam him in the face every time. He is now saying he wantes to talk to you and you are avoiding it!
You said.."BUT, I know I have to be very clear and set boundaries and make him realise we need to get unstuck from where we are..." ...but is being mad, mean, cold, a b*tch as you described yourself, really being clear? Is that really clear, honest, open communication? Is that assertion, or is it aggression? It sounds to me, as Forest would say, as you were doing it with a lot of emotion.
Are you trying to punish him, or are you trying to just protect yourself? Do you really really want to be rid of him 100%? Do you not love him anymore? I cant tell whats going on!
I'm sorry if I am speaking out of turn, but I want to be honest with you (you always were with me!) - but your behaviour/actions/words confuse the hell out of me!! and yet you are presumably being honest with all of us here...so how the hell do you think he is reading it ??? I bet he is totally confused.
Thinking of you, as always, stay strong, you are beautiful you know, Al xxxxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
