Well, I'm doing ok I think. I woke early this morning & had some sad moments. Started crying a little & still feel a little down but it's like you said, Trusting, intuition is a powerful thing.
I've really been working on forgiveness, not only my H but also the OW, I not there yet with her but I'm working on it! I do sort of feel sorry for her that she has to manipulate someone & lie to them to get them to move, marry & whatever. I didn't have to do that, I was myself. So, forgiveness!!! I'm trying!
God give me strength!
Thank you all for your support, I sure do need it!!!
I went to lunch with a friend of mine today, she didn't know about my sitch, of course she had to ask about H, but I told her she was so sorry. But we had a good lunch.
After that I went shopping for some clothes. I just need a few things to at least go on job interviews or whatever. I bought everything on sale & then had a card & got another 15% off. It was sad tho when I left the store, I'm so used to my H being with me, we always shopped together. He wanted me to see what he had picked out & try it on for me & he always wanted to see what I picked out & try it on for him, of course we picked out things for each other too & he was good at it. Now he is doing it for someone else & she is doing it for him. That makes me sad. Also, I saw Xmas things out (so early!!!!) anyway that made me sad too b/c we used to get up really early on the weekends, go out to eat for breakfast then go Xmas shopping before the crowd got so bad. We really had a good time.
if there is one thing i used to love is going to chicago the day after thanksgiving. talk about an experience--wow--it is the best. h has never really been there but i loved it and would like to do it again sometime.
i am sorry your shopping brought up so many fond memories.
i think you have been doing a good job trying to get your life situated and moving forward with trying to find a job.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yes, my H was more of a romantic than I was. He would send me flowers or sweet emails. Of course the flowers where for an occasion but always 2 dozen red roses for our anniversary which is Oct. 10th.
We just enjoyed being together.
I'm trying to do better but I still have those times that I miss him so bad that I can't hardly stand it! Maybe one day.
Hi nlt, My H was also the more romantic one and we also enjoyed so much being together. We even felt that the other's presence made us happy, even if we did not do anything together. Oh well, I guess the thoughts and sadness will never disappear completely.
I think you are doing so much better these days, although you miss H so bad. But you are GAL and that is a step in the right direction.
I'm like you I just can't believe how just being together made us happy & now this! I would love to know how he is & if he is happy now. I have a feeling he may not be.
I'm really trying but it is rather sad, plus our anniversary is the 10th.
Sometimes I like to think of them as having a mental illness as they are lost right now. Kind of like a bad dream and when they wake up, they will be amazed at how they have messed up their lives and those they love.
My H cannot forgive himself at all, says some things cannot be fixed as so much damage has been done. At first I thought, our marriage???? Then I thought nope, he is still coming around, we can hang out for hours, he says he loves me, his heart is with me, etc.
Also, my H has not spoken to his parents in over three years. I think that is what he feels he cannot go back and fix. For him to talk to his dad will take a miracle.
I think God still has a lot of work to do on these men.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
NLT sorry you are thinking of the anniversary. Hopefully it will quickly pass.
MWG my h too is not on speaking terms with his family. The family used to be so close. Not sure how that is going to get fixed.
H asked tonight if his mom and dad were coming for christmas. I said I didn't think so. They came last year. H said they were not, but I am sure that is what he thinks since he doesn't speak with them.
I feel bad for my h that his R with his family is strained. Let God do his work.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
What is sad is that my h will almost cry when he asks why his father does not ever call him just to see how he is doing. However, three years ago, my FIL called h twice to tell him to stop the A and how wrong it is. H hung up on him both times and they have not spoken to each other at all.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I just keep thinking & wondering if my ex will be thinking of me on our anniversary. I so much wish he would but right now I just don't know for sure. It has been almost 6 months since I've seen or talk to him. I miss him so bad!!!!!
Sorry, I'm having a rough night. I keep thinking about each year we look forward to our anniversary, he always does something special, he would send flowers or bring them home (red roses). We would usually take a vacation somewhere to celebrate usually a couple of weeks before. I was also thinking about 16 years ago how happy & excited I was that I was to marry the man of my dreams in one week & I would spend the rest of my life with him. How in the world did we get here!!!
