Hi Texmom, good you did some DBing. I know you asked about H taking the kids. I think you should go to a friend's house and then H stays at your house. With your kids being so small they would probably do better at home and then there is no way for H to bring OW..
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09