Divorced but hoping to Reconcile

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"On a scale from 1-10, hmm... well, if 10 is being married, happy and together at last, I would say we are at a 6 or 7 maybe. Number 8 for me is when she tells me she wants to start working on the relationship again and 9 is when we've made lots of progress in our relationship,but have not taken that step of marriage."

LNMW, I hate to say it, but you seem a bit over optimistic to me. That is not to be discouraging, only that perhaps you are making an assessment that is not even close to what she would say. What do you think she would say? I mean, I would put anything above a 5 as including a friendship, sex, affection, attraction, and probably living together. Perhaps a 3.5, given that the feelings for beyond friendship are not reciprocal now?

I would give my marriage/relationship a zero, I think, given H's lack of interest. This is actally an improvement, when I had things in negative numbers for a while. They improved when I began to cut off contact w/H. I decided that having self-respectand boundaries was important and I told him not to come around the house any more except to drop off D.

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