Trying2live- the new post 1

[Trying2live]

Well no one can tell you what to do. You have to follow your heart. Someone once told me the heart never lies.

If you want to give it a chance and you want to fight so that either way you walk free and clear knowing that you gave it a chance and did what you could in your power to try, then I say go for it. If you don't have it in you and you feel you have tried then so be it. The great thing is the ball is in our courts, its our choice and no one can say otherwise. its so easy for everyone to say what they would do and I was one of those people. Guess what I did the minute my husband told me. The complete opposite of what I had clung to for 20 years.

I'm a firm believer that unless you have walked in someones shoes you cannot say for sure.

You do what you feel you need to do. If there comes a point when enough is enough you will know. This is the way I feel about it and I told my Pastor it and he said that's a good analogy. I said while I have the grace in my heart to keep standing and a desire for reconciliation then I will go with that because grace comes from God so he must have put it there. And when God feels that enough is enough i know i will feel it in my heart and god is not so inhumane as my Father to not allow my H to make a choice. God will require a choice at some point and in all our hearts we will know and feel it.

I personally think that having them even move in with the OW can be a good thing as it removes all the fantasy and he has to now see her just like every other woman. Or maybe it's not with another woman, maybe they can see what its really like and how much we have done for them. It's not over until we say and the grace has left. That's my thoughts on it so follow your heart.