H is having affair after all - part 3

[seekpeaceofmind]

It sounds to me like he still wanted you to want him - or at least to show your hurt so that he would know he had that effect on you. It's as if he turned it all around to interpret your calm "taking care of business" approach as a rejection of him. He seems to want you to react to him. Almost like it is validation for him. Definitely messed up thinking.

Has he stepped back, yet?

I had kind of a tough summer. I had decided to stay away from this board for a variety of reasons. If we were allowed to make personal contact, I would have checked in with you - it felt rude to just drop away, but . . .

I think I'm thru the worst of it. Went thru some milestones in September - wedding anniversary, my birthday (no acknowledgement from H or in-laws of my existence), and then the one year mark of our physical separation. I feel like something has shifted in my emotional state - I don't think I'm at acceptance, but at least at resignation. I'm working on a separation agreement to get finances settled, but haven't discussed with H, yet. I have basically no contact w/ him.