I should clear up the blah blah blah thing. If someone has a genuine problem, he will listen to them and be there for them. But if someone uses the problem to gain something, and does it often, he loses any respect/compassion.
For example a gal at his work had a lot of damage to her home in the 90 mph windstorm Omaha got in June. She asked for time off work, he gave it to her. Then she got a big insurance check and bought a big screen TV and threw a party w/food and beer, all courtesy of the insurance $$. Then she called H at work (he was there, she wasn't) on a Saturday the following month giving him a sob story about how bad her life was. He cut her off, said he really didn't care what was going on in her personal life, she could call a friend for that....She walked in Monday morning and said she quit and H said ok, bye bye...
So he is more of the "give you the benefit of the doubt, but if I find you lacking, I will cut you off" type. He just told me last night he has no use for our closest friends from KC anymore. He got the H the job at his company. But during his A, the W of the couple was pumping people at that company (where OW worked) for info. after I told her what was going on. And the H of the couple was saying he lost respect for my H, etc etc.
My H said that was being a hypocrite b/c that couple had done things wrong in their life and didn't have the right to judge him or gossip about him. Now he wants nothing to do with them...
