But he probably sees the good he does right?? and has trouble recognizing the bad traits? I was never picked on or any of that and never thought I did not have enough but was envious..

Of course I am not blah, blah, blah..I do have compassion for people and would help them in a second if they need me but would not intrude if they don't..

I bet he's great at this job..I also understand the public thing..

I understand the private also. I bet he has lots of self doubt..pretty indecisive at home..I bet that when he does try to relax and their are distractions that it really messes with his mind. I would say he gets a little angry when that happens but gets quite and withdrawn at times too. I would hazard to guess that if he is in a crowd and he is trying to talk to you/someone and there are distractions around that he may even appear not to hear you/them at times??

wink, wink is always good BBJ..IMO..it builds intimacy..it's a good thing if it's what you want.

Like I said BBJ..I may be muddying things here..don't let me muddy things.