He would never go, at least not now. Yesterday was a holiday for us (my husband is Muslim) and I was really worried he would not come and take the kids to the fesival at the town park. But he did and we generally had a nice day together with the kids. He went to work that night and called me at 10pm and we talked for almost half an hour. Nothing earth shattering, but just mundane every day things. It was nice, I did not feel pressured and upset. I am trying to remind myself everyday that his problems are not about me, that what he did was not about me, yes there are areas I neglected in my marriage, but he got himself in this mess and I am willing and wanting to stay in it, but he has to get over his own guilt, shame, and whatever else he is feeling and doing. I think just taking that pressure off myself has helped me.
Me 40 H 41 T17/M14 Sons 7 and 4 OW - yes for over a year "I don't know what I want" 5/29/08
