Hi Beth Know how you feel about the sex thing - it would be a 180 for me, but I want it to be when there is some sort of commitment. It is SUCH a tough one, and you have my thoughts. I'm looking forward to seeing how you will handle it.
Just wanted to let you know that I would NOT recommend talking about sex, or about these boundaries that you are going to put in place about sex. Maybe just be flirty, but unavailable. Example is while you are kissing, you obviously enjoy it but you move his wandering hands back to your back. Or you let him know how much you would love to have sex right now, by responding to his advance but "gee is that the time, I said I would go and do XYZ, and get up and go, and tell him that you will see him later". Gives him room to pursue you more, and means you dont come across as weird, kill-joy controlling wife. Be fun but in control of sex. And gosh only do it if you want to do it! You could be using him as a sex toy, planing to discard him the moment he shows that he wants some sort of commitment from you!!
