Yes mine did the same. She said I was and her family were trying to control her etc etc after EA discovered. And never did it come up before. So I believe PDT your description is spot on. On a side note, I got an at length email where she said "you were not overly controlling" but than goes on to say lets start talking about D.

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Married 22 years. Known each other 23.5 years
Me: 42
W: 40
S: 21
D: 15
D: 11
Bomb Dropped: 04/7/08
Separated: 04/25/08
ILYBIDLY: 05/16/08