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[AliSuddenly]

What does your intutuituon tell you to do? What would you do if it was an old friend? Would you really call again a week later?

Dont call T...you dont have to show 'you care', he left you, he knows you care. The ball IS in his court, so leve it there??

I know its hard T, but I'm sure he will be in touch again one day soon,

Ali xxx

[One Day]

(((((Lovely Melon)))))

My intuition says to call him- if he does't pick up don't leave a message and if he does pick up you can have a brief conversation and say that you thought you'd call and say hello.

IMHO periods of dark aren't going to help your sitch further- there's some similarities to Julia's situation where you need to remind him of you and make some moves. What does your instinct tell you to do/what would be the most uncomfortable thing to do? I ask because the uncomfortable thing is probably your 180- so do that!!

L. xx

[JCJ]

(((T)))

My intuition says call. It is what a friend would do I think. What do you feel?

[AliSuddenly]

Ok, well I got that wrong! Gosh, I am no good at this cr*p. I think I have lost my judgement in all of this.. how I could not have had a clue my ex had an EA all along. I'm an idiot T, dont listen to me!! Ring the man
Al xxx

[Essie]

(((T))))

I'm so hesitant to advise - the longer we are all here, the less I feel like there is one right answer.

But if the goal is still comfortable friendship connection, then you have to keep reaching out (even though your instinct might say otherwise?) and being normal and friendly and comfortable.

But truly I have no idea, I could give you rationale to not contact, and rationale to reach out!!

I'm reading the passionate marriage. Its good! I'm tempted to hijack your thread, but you can go to my thread for my review so far!