I was unfaithful

[SirPrizeMe]

What do you mean, a test or quiz?
Do you mean, a test to see if you should continue DBing? A test to see if you REALLY want to be married or you are just afraid of being NOT married?

I don't think there is a test.

I think the only way to find out is to get a life! And see if you change your mind over time, while waiting.

Someone smart once said, "Obstacles and brick walls are there for a reason: they let you know how badly you want to achieve your goals."

For now, whether you want to be married FOR REAL or not, You can't right now. You are effectively not married.

So, to help you decide, and to make sure you reach the right decision - you get a life, and you work on yourself, and you make yourself VERY attractive. And this getting-a-life - it will help him, too.

And if things go right, then he will come back to you, and you will reach out to him. But it could take a VERY long time. or even, forver.

Or, as you get a life, he may look at you and decide "that's not for me." Maybe you will discover that you have always wanted to be a motorcycle mechanic, and he won't like that. Or maybe you will become an astrologer, and he won't like that. Or maybe you will become an independent woman with no need for a husband, and in that case you won't want HIM. Or maybe you will decide you DO want a husband and you've waited long enough, and you will find someone new.

Regardless what happens, the getting-a-life is the important part. Whether you end up together or not, you will have succeeded - you will have gotten a life.

that make sense?

Maxine, I completely understand where you are coming from. I know the feeling. Not sure. Nothing wrong with what you're feeling. It's completely normal.

Give yourself some time.
and get a life!