Tonight I picked up my girls from the apartment to take them to the house. We still had to pack whatever they wanted to take back the apartment. I also packed S14's stuff and brought our little dog Moe back to her. I called the wife as I parked at the apartment to pick the girls up. I hadn't told her my plan. She was just getting off of work. She asked if the girls had eaten. I said I didn't know. I JUST got there and was still in the parking lot. She asked if we should have them eat first, "Do you want to feed them first? Oh wait. Are gonna come right back or stay?" I was like, "We're not going to stay at the house. Just pick up their things and the dog and come right back. They can eat after." "Okay. I'll cook some chicken patties." "Okay."
We go home, pack a few things and come back. She's at the apartment already and has cooked. I'm leaving off the girls bags and tell her hi. She says hi. I'm playing with the girls a little and making it seem like I'm going to leave pretty quick. S14 was gone. He had gone with his dad to celebrate his other sisters Bday.
"Do you want to eat with us?" "Well...will there be enough?" "Yes." "Ok...sure."
She serves all of us. D11 sits in front of the tv. Only two chairs at the table, so let D6 sit and leave the other for the wife. I sit at the bar next to the dining room. I am helping D6 with her homework. She is whining and going on. Drama queen. Moe, the dog is begging the wife for food. Sitting up, scratching at her. The wife looks at me. She has the universal look of "Will you look at what this dog is doing." She does that to me a couple of times. Just gives me the look and I notice the dog.
Her cell phone rings. Its on the kitchen counter. She gets up to look at it and ignores it. 10 minutes later, a text. She doesn't get up. 5 minutes later she just pushes back her chair, and looks at the message or messages. She then starts to reply to the text. I'm still talking to D6, but of course I'm noticing everything. She talks to D6 while she is doing it. She then puts the phone back. Then I'm helping D11 finish her homework. The wife is in the kitchen and telling D6 to get ready for a bath.
About 35 minutes after her reply to the text, her house phone rings. She comes around from the kitchen next to me and checks the caller id on the handset. She answers it and in her SWEETEST, highest voice ever, she says:
"Hiii...........yessss..........okayy............I'll call you later.......bye."
I think a tooth rotted just hearing it.
Sounded a lot like the OM. She probably replied to his text and told him that I was at the apartment. He gave it a half hour and figures I left, maybe. Called her home phone. Wondering if I was still there. He thought it was safe to call the home phone. I can JUST hear the other side of the conversation,
W-Hiii. Already sounds like a code.
OM-Is he still there? Getting paranoid, dude?
W-Yesss. Code for "do you have to ask? don't you hear my voice, stupid?"
OM-Alright, I love you, momma. I know that is what he calls her. I have heard his VM's before.
W-Okayy. He's right here. Get off the phone, please.
OM- Call me later. No comment. He's just a f*cknut.
W-I'll call you later. No explanation needed.
5 minutes later, I'm trying to leave. She did it to ME, now. She messed with my head.
She HAD to answer the house phone, otherwise he probably would have left a message that I would have heard.
I give my girls a lot of lovin'. A little bit of tickle fighting with D6. She is wanting to jump off the couch and have me catch her. We do it once.
Leaving, I tell the wife goodbye and thank her for dinner. She say no problem. Goodnight.
She had me thinking all the way home. Sh*thead. She sounded happy as a lark. I think it is just more of the same as when we were having good times at home before she left. Having wonderful moments sometimes, but still with OM. Girls are back with her now, so the focus is back on me. We've spent quite a bit of time together this past week.
Will pull back I suppose. Wait for Saturday, when I can pick up the girls and take them to a Bday party for the day. Gonna try and not see her till then.
And who knows...maybe not even then. She is working a full day on Saturday. I could pick them up and get them back, after she leaves in the morning and before she gets back home.
We'll see what happens.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
But I'm not obsessing over it. All I know now is that I can go either way now, and that I'll be ok with it.
At the end of the day, I'm by myself because I choose to. You and I BOTH know what I want. Only time will tell.
You said it all for me ((H4H)).
You and I have similar things going on. A WAS who isn't fully committed to the new R enough to be done with us, but give us enough rope to hang ourselves with. Push-me/Pull-you.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
You know what - we should all just say wtf and meet up somewhere for a weekend gathering to forget (or at least shelf) what our WAS are putting us through. Or rather maybe what we are letting them put us through?
You've heard it all before. Man - I feel with you. Hope that makes sense.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
((Lost)) you cannot be one of the alphabet girls...
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
