Actually, I have moments when I think 'Damn, I'm good looking', not to be conceited.

But that aside, a little news.

Was checking my account and saw W's account was on 0.00. I transferred $50 to keep her from going into overdraft.

I mentioned it later (when calling about D) and she mumbled 'Thanks....' Sounded a little awkward.

I felt like I won a point or two, but who knows ?

When I dropped D off tonight, W was not initiating verbal or eye contact. But neither was I ( going dim here.)

After kissing D goodnight, I turned to go. W was following D in the door and I said: ' Good night, ___' She responded with the same, but sounded like she might have been surprised that I cared enough to say good night to her.

I think that is because if she were me, she would be holding a grudge for the way she has been treating me. She would not make the first move towards reconcilliatory activity.

It has been that way our whole marriage. I have to make the first move to break the ice of hurt feelings. She would wait passivly forever otherwise.

Is it possible that she feels like she is the victim, even though she treated me in such an ugly manner the previous day ?

I would not be surprised.

Last edited by native; 10/01/08 04:26 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09