I think I have an STD thanks to exh

[cat03]

darn it!! how awful hon!!! grrrrr, they better see you Monday!

Hugs))))))))))))

[JeffSTL]

Sara: It seems like everything these days is difficult for me

I know what you mean, why can't the good guys get a break at least once in awhile.

Sara, I'm praying for you, I know everyone here is too

keep us posted

Goodnight Sara Sweet Dreams

Jeff

W41
M10.75 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
W files for D 07/18/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never

[Starshyne]

I wish I had great news to share, but I don't. I guess the only good news is that I was cleared of the "biggie" STD's. The ones that are too difficult for me to spell.

It looks like I do have warts. I am not so sure exactly what this means. I have to go to my GYN next week to have an HPV test done to see if I have the virus for cervical cancer. If I do that means they will have to monitor me for 2 years. 90% of HPV cases heal itself and the other 10% have to have half of the cervix removed. If I don't have HPV that causes cancer, then I just have a virus that can be cleared up.

Regardless, my ex husband gave this to me. We didn't even go through with sex in February because he said that I didn't know how to please a man. But I am sure it was enough contact to spread the warts. He didn't even have to have any symptoms to be a carrier.

I am just numbed by this all. After all I have been through, this is just another thing I have to deal with. This affair has just been so awful in so many ways. But....I am thankful that it isn't some STD that can cause major problems.

I am so glad that you all here can read this and understand without judging me. I can't exactly tell others in my life about all of this because I don't think they would understand. So thank you for being here and allowing me to share with you the things that are going on.

Sara

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I'm so sorry you're going thru this, Sara. You definitely don't deserve this!

Sometimes I feel like a real "nazi" in recommending that people do NOT have sex with their wayward spouses, or -- if they do -- at least use protection. But the risks are very real.

Praying for a good outcome for you,

Puppy

[Starshyne]

I wouldn't have sex with him when he was together with the OW. I was really stupid and believed him. He had ended with with OW during this time and we were trying to work things out. He told me that they had made out several times and he wanted to go farther, but she refused because he was married. She wanted to wait until after he had left me until they had sex. I thought it was safe and a good idea in piecing my marriage back together.

Obviously he lied to me and I fell for it. I understand why I fell for it.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I think it's understandable, as we are a whirlwind of emotions at times like this. For the record, I did the same thing . . . and THEN insisted that she get tested.

Talk about your "mixed messages" . . .

[kat727]

Sara, I am so sorry. I had the scare myself a week ago because of an abnormal pap. I didn't know what could be wrong. they ran down a list but they didn't think it was cancer. Turned out clear in my case. But the scare was very real. I am so glad that you are taking care of this and speaking about it not only to help yourself but others as well. Hugs.

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

Sara, Sorry it had to be anything at all, but glad its not as serious as it could have been. It really sucks that you got put in this position in the first place because he couldn't be honest. I hope the HPV turns out to be negative and you can move on.

((((Hugs))))

[Babygirl]

so sorry sara!! that is just awful period! I can tell you this thread is making sure I call today and make me an appt just in case ya know?
I have a friend, who just found out she had something, her H had been having an affair she was pretty sure, when her pap came back and she had an STD, her H blamed HER for it and left! she had not been sneaking around, she is just devastated

[Sugar and Spice]

Sara just wanted to check on you today.