One Last Pull for this Knot to Break

[sleeper]

You are right, Breton. I've been thinking much the same.

She is a friend now. I do see baby steps from time to time. My goal now is to not initiate contact for any reason.

I have noticed that she hides contact with OM from me like she did just post-bomb. She either cares enough not to hurt my feelings or is afraid of losing me completely. Either way that is a good thing but not good enough.

So yes, I am seeing baby steps. She will initiate a lot of contact and then she will go dark on me for a few days. Maybe that's what they mean by going "in the tunnel." Funny how we can tell what doesn't work more quickly than what does work.

In many ways she is cake-eating now. Before she was so angry that I don't believe she was. Now I think she realizes she is cake-eating because of her angry reaction when I commented to her how much trouble she was "for an x-wife." I think she got angry because she doesn't like the idea that she is reliant on me at all. She also feels entitled because she is "the mother of my children." Like she's, "The Queen Mum" or something.

I had a housecat that had kittens once.

I think I'll save that comment for a really good fight.