LNMW, I thin that is a good idea. Be her friend for a while. But don't be a doormat.

Here is what DB book says:

On a scale of 1-10, what is rank of relationship?

How can you pull it up half a point?

I can tell you that overly needy is extremely unattractive. You need to come from a position of quiet confidence.

You can see my sitch; I asked H to stop coming by now. He seemed angry and entitled and I am tired of negotiating his moods.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D