I agree totally... Hope was making the statement that she has guilt over what she could have done or didn't do in her marriage and I was just stating that we can't kill ourselves to death over what we didn't do... we need to learn from it and make changes and move forward...
BUT I do honestly believe that the spouse plays a part in the disconnect but so does the cheating spouse... they need to be held accountable too.. What did they do to work on the marriage.. in my case Nothing. They moved on and made a choice to cheat to cross the line instead of talking to us...
Clearly I new exactly what I did to allow the disconnect in my marriage to happen... we just can't change the past... but we can change now and recognize what we can do differently moving forward... agree we need to all learn and grow from this experience..
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
