Hi Cinders, I haven't been on the boards much either lately. I feel so much like you do. As I've said so many times on these boards, I could've written the lines you wrote. My H has no OW, but I feel awful and hurt and in pain a lot. I miss my pal, someone to laugh with, our family life--it's just terrible. And H seems not to care at all. He's just moving along, indifferent to the pain he's caused.
Yesterday was my birthday and H came by to get the girls at some point. He knew it was my birthday, for sure, and said NOTHING. Didn't even wish me a happy birthday. This from the guy who, for years and years, showered me with fancy dinners, flowers, presents and made me feel so loved and special.
So, I have no great advice, but I do understand how you feel.
Me/X-H: 47/48 T 19 yrs M 16 years D14 D10 ILYBINILWY: 10/07 H moved out 6/08