Trying2live- the new post 1

[marisol35]

Hope - I was thinking getting a job with a whole different company.... leave that company and find a job somewhere completely different. I know jobs are scarce right now but if you could get a job that pays the same or a few dollars more than what you make now would you do it? I know I would. I am willing to risk getting paid much less actually to move to Chicago in about 18 months after my D16 graduates from high school and be roommates with a close cousin of mine. I want to start my life over if this D goes through and that is my plan if it does.

As for the training he is floundering over, I would make him do it on his own. My H depended on me alot for his work stuff and I know that it has impacted his performance since he left but that is something they now have to accept and deal with themselves! This is a part of the detachment process!! They need to start standing on their own 2 feet!!!! This is so they can realize what WE meant to them!! If they want to be free and independent then let them!

TxMom - I would let him file. Let him take action! If you are not ready then don't do it. Even though my H filed, I am taking my time with the whole thing. What's the rush right? Unless he has something on his agenda that he isn't sharing with me then why should I make it so easy for him to walk away especially if he has shown me a slight bit of hope that he isn't 100% sure of his decision. Also, email to OW may backfire on you. I confronted OW when this started to spiral out of control and it made him leave even sooner. I even texted her (very angry msgs) when he confirmed the A and he got angry with me and comforted her. H's tend to side with OW when we do or say things about OW. These OW are not worth it. In time they will reveal their true selves and it isn't until then that our H's will realize what they will loose or have lost in this whole ordeal.

My H flies to Colorado on Friday with OW to meet her parents...this weekend is not going to be good for me... must find other things to keep me occupied!