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badcompany #1607985 09/30/08 04:50 AM
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I hate this with a passion. no amount of prayer is helping with my situation. I just want her to leave me alone altogether, or wake up and want to reconcile.


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badcompany #1608677 09/30/08 09:13 PM
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Hummmmm.... I wonder why this is occuring now. Was OM staying with her, or she with him? Why is she now having this difficulty being alone?

I guess I'd explain, "I'm sorry sweetheart, but we're separated and separation is a time for both of us to explore ourselves and our lives to figure out where we want to be. I'd like to help you, but I really need space right now. Maybe you can go to (parents?)..."


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it has always been like this. Always been afraid.


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badcompany #1608736 09/30/08 09:57 PM
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most days when I have our son, she'll just text me once asking how he is. Other days like the past 2, she tries to be my buddy. There has got to be a way.....


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badcompany #1608919 10/01/08 01:28 AM
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BC,

IGNORE HER. She made it clear she doesn't want any part of you around her, so DON'T RESCUE HER.

She will continue to do this as long as you allow her to. She's yanking you around.

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please help me I can't take this anymore. I want to ignore her, it's not that I'm physically not able....the way custody is arranged we have to see each other or talk. I ignore her calls and she asks if I'm ok. I say fine and leave it at that, and she asks if I'm mad at her. I want next to nothing to do with her, but when she picks our son up, I have to be there. I ignore her calls throughout the day, and everyone tells mr I have to be civil because of my son, but this is breaking me down fast. I can't keep doing this


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badcompany #1609018 10/01/08 03:09 AM
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Originally Posted By: badcompany
please help me I can't take this anymore. I want to ignore her, it's not that I'm physically not able....the way custody is arranged we have to see each other or talk. I ignore her calls and she asks if I'm ok. I say fine and leave it at that, and she asks if I'm mad at her. I want next to nothing to do with her, but when she picks our son up, I have to be there. I ignore her calls throughout the day, and everyone tells mr I have to be civil because of my son, but this is breaking me down fast. I can't keep doing this


Wife: "Please, come over here! THERE'S SOMEONE IN THE HOUSE, and I'm scared!"

You: "I'm tired, and I'm going back to sleep. If you're convinced that there's someone in the house, call the police. Please don't bother me again with your childish games."

It's really not that hard.

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I'm about one conversation away from blowing up and telling her to leave me the hell alone and not to talk to me. I have bit my tongue for 4 months. After her cheating and lying and being nasty and getting pregnant, and divorce and custody papers, I am going to detonate. I tried the nice guy, I tried the knight in shining armor, I tried the mean guy; I tried the non responsive guy. Nothing works. I am starting to loathe her altogether


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Puppy in the very very slight chance someone was in the house, they could he harmed or dead before the cops could be called. I was at work right down the road. I couldn't live with that on my conscience


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There's no need to "detonate" or "blow up." Merely tell her, firmly, that if she wants to be alone, she's going to get her wish, but that her wish has consequences.

Calm.

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