Trying2live- the new post 1

[marisol35]

"Your D is almost the same age as mine. It is especially tough for them because I think that they will always base future relationships on how they see their fathers. How sad is that."

Hope - This is my greatest fear. Fear that my daughter will not see men in the same way like she use to. She admired her dad and thought he was the greatest thing on earth until this all happened. Every day I talk to her and make sure that when conversations about boys or when she gets older come up that she knows not everyone is the same. That there are good men out there and to take care of herself and take pride in her values.

T2L - I'm in! What are you going to do? I have to get that book. I will check amazon to see how much it is....

Well, today he left to Illinois for his grandmother's funeral tomorrow. He did send a message to let my daughter know he made it ok. He stopped by yesterday for about 5 minutes (I was still at work) to pickup some luggage that he had left and to see his D16. She told me when he left that she cried alot. When he sent me the message this morning I let him know that she did cry when he left and for him to know how much she loved and cared for him. His response was: 'thanks' and that was it!!! It just infuriates me. But, nothing I can do.

I have decided to submit a response to the petition for reconciliation. This will delay the process 3-4 months and it will require a meeting with a mediator to discuss our situation. If at that time he still insists on a divorce then the process will move forward again. At least it will give him more time to think about things. I'm not in a rush so it is not affecting me. I know many would not find my choice to be a good one but I don't think I will be sharing it with them at this point.

So let's list our goal lists here and compare notes!!?? I don't have a goal list yet and I would like to gain some ideas...what do you think?