Moving her from Newbees

[optimistwife]

I am still apprehensive whenever we get together and I'm sure it shows through. I am definetly in the friendzone and am scared of trying to take it to the next level. Playfulness and flurting will not be easy for me.

Oooh,
Just remembered something that has helped me. I think I read it in DR book. But it was to visualize what it would be like if everything was going well- what a successful day together would be. What would you be doing? How would you act? See yourself acting 'as if'. Keep a positive mind. Physically make youself smile and think good thoughts about how great the night will go.

Believe me- it actually works. This is what top athletes do- they visualize themselves winning, and how it is going to happen. This kept me focused during those akward times he came over, was distant and detatched, and I could tell he wasn't sure how to act. I did great (on the outside at least).

My theory was that if I couldn't be comfortable and easy to be around- why would be want to be around me?