My thought is that my H is floundering in general, not just in relation to me. He has admitted as much. It is not about me. He can't seem to be able to "just be happy". His words, on more than one occasion.
I think (I know, don't assume, but bear with me) he tries to control everything around him in the hopes that having a sense of control will help him feel "happy", b/c feeling out of control obviously does NOT make him happy.
So he was bent out of shape today b/c I didn't see things his way and he wanted to be able to run the show. I screwed up by caving and giving S6 to my FIL. But I could tell by H's demeanor when I called to tell him I was taking S to FIL, that he knew he was wrong. I said, "I took S to FIL but I still don't believe this was an issue worth getting mad about". He said, "Ok, I am just really crazed and stressed at work right now and we can talk later". That is as close to sorry as it gets, usually....
