Hi All, thanks for all of the support, Tomorrow is moving day. I was sad/crying last night, my D28 called me a few times and D15 came and sat with me. H was working in the garage, yard, etc. trying to work off some guilt. I really feel if this OW was not in the picture we would have a chance. I told H this morning if he was unhappy and wanted to split ok so be it but because of this A and all the time spent lying and plotting if he put 20% into his M we would not be where we are now. I am upset too because he must have bought her a birthday gift on Friday for over $250. And now he is going away on Friday (of course he says by himself), and I know he is having this A and I know all about it but it hurts so bad. I am more worried that OW is 51 so this is not some young 21 year old that will grow tired of the situation. OW is really digging in and I think willing to wait. I have to pull myself together and work on DB and being strong again because it will be a tough fight. I am praying everyday and standing for my M.
Twinhope and Txmom, my suggestion - before Hs pick up the kids - you need to give the kids prune juice or some other gastric delight so they will have to deal with the after effect hopefully while they are with the OW. That will discourage them.
T2L you are good standing your ground. Once I am on my own, I do have a goal list just getting past the next few days. And as far as your H thinking you are stupid -- what the h... You are very intelligent, he must have some real self esteem issues. I am sure your H is not used to you challenging him. It must be driving him crazy. That is a good 180 for you. Will be in contact once he moves.
Marisol you have come such a long way since you started posting. You have gotten strong in all of this which is important but you also have faith in your M. Your D is almost the same age as mine. It is especially tough for them because I think that they will always base future relationships on how they see their fathers. How sad is that.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
