okay, first off, nikki, I am and never will be the woman you are. sigh. tried to FINALLY fix that toilet the runs and runs and runs. last fall I put a new flapper in (which was big enough, considering I didn't even know what one was at the time) but that didn't work. so last week when h was out I girded my loins and channeled nikki and tried to replace the whole inner workings...only to discover (after I had it all taken apart) that the kit I bought DOESN'T FIT!!!!. lets just say it was a true lucy/ricky moment in my life, and with ricky back home, well, it was hard to figure out what to do. eventually I got it back together again, and with some help tightening this here and there, we are back to the same problem as before...which beats the hell out of a puzzle of pieces laying all over the bathroom floor. someday I will get this blasted thing done, though. someday!!!
as for the rest of my life, there is good and bad. h and I are still together, which is good. a few bumps in the road, but we are working thru it. we are both still in IC and are starting MC, at least monthly check-ins, this week, which I think is a good thing. the toughest thing for us right now, though, is that h got laid off a couple of weeks ago. scary as all hell, but he's doing everything he can to find his next job. god willing he finds it soon and that its a good fit and both of us can concentrate on rebuilding our family. I know he'll do it, I have all the faith in the world that he will, its just the not knowing when that gets to me sometimes (and him as well). I know, many have it tougher than me, and I do count my blessings, just would love to catch a break already. its been a tough enough year and a half.
other than that, S6 started 1st grade and is LOVING it, and the twins start up their 2nd year of preschool in a week (now known as mimosa monday). really looking forward to a small break that I get again while they are all in school. but especially love it because they all love school so much...its fun to hear their stories.
hope everyone is doing well and had a great summer!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Awww Sally I'm so sorry! I swear I think I just got lucky on the toilet thing. but I think it's awesome that I'm considered plumbing-worthy at all! I hope you guys can get it fixed.
So glad things are mostly good with you and H. The bumps are expected, but glad you are working through them.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
just popped in today to check out how everyone is doing and thought I'd give a quick update. am really sad to see so many people are banned. I don't know what happened, but wow.
As for me, I am doing well. Feel really good, in fact. Am reading a really facinating book called "parenting from the inside out." I can't recommend it highly enough!
h is still out of work, hopefully that will change SOON. Am using what I learned in all those months of therapy to help manage the situation for myself...to recognize what I have control over/what I don't, and to not worry about things out of my control, etc, etc. In the meantime we are also taking advantage of the extra time together. We workout a lot together, and he is able to do things with the kids that he has missed out on for so long. simple things, like take them to school and such. And yes, it is nice to do things all together as a family again.
H and I are doing very well. we had a huge bump during the last week of july/first couple of weeks of august, where h spiraled into a pretty severe depression. actually I think it had been happening for a while, but it was the first time I saw it and realized what it was. thanks for the right meds and his continued IC, he was able to come out of it and we were able to continue our growth as a couple.
I don't think I ever really understood just how horrible depression is, though. I had never seen it first hand before. and wow do I have a huge respect for the struggle it took for him to do what needed to be done to come out of it.
The kids are doing well. They are excited about fall and all the activities surrounding it. depending on h's job situation, we may or may not still be going to disney in a few weeks. they don't know it yet, but if we go, am sure they will be over the moon.
so that's me in a nutshell. hope everyone is doing well!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Bless you, lady. It's so good to hear from you and that you two are doing well. I am also very glad your H made it through the depression -- it can be so devastating for both the afflicted and their loved ones.
its been a while since I dropped by and gave an update. life has been good, am definitely ready to put a close to 2008 and continue to move forward with my life. Greg and I are still doing well, and both looking forward to what we hope will be a long and happy life together. but as much as I am looking forward to closing out 2008, it will always be a part of our life together, a part of our history. and I know it made me a stronger, better person, in spite of the pain and heartache that encompassed part of it.
I want to thank you all again for being with me thru all of it, and I want to wish everyone a very happy new year! hope 2009 is a GREAT year for all.
take care, and wishing you much joy and happiness.
m.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
but I think it's awesome that I'm considered plumbing-worthy at all! I hope you guys can get it fixed.