Trying2live- the new post 1

[twinhope]

Hi All,

I have been reading the posts and other threads and I know we have said this before but all of our situations are very similar. The things that our H's say seems to be so scripted as if they are reading a book "How to have and Affair" by dumb a$$ men! It is just so wild that they all say alot of the same things. With that I know exactly how you feel TxMom about wanting to take back someone that has left us and our kids, but what does give me hope is reading all of these posts and seeing that I am not alone. Maybe that is not right but even though our S have choices and they are making very bad ones at that, they are struggling themselves. They really must be have some inner struggles to be doing and saying the things that they are. It is very sad and sometimes I feel very sorry for my H. Then I slap myself in the face and say he needs to wake up and get a grip.

T2L- Thanks for starting the new thread. I think you did great setting boundries. They do need to see what it will be like if we are D. They are going to get angry and act like children but we need to hold firm. They like us the way they want it and if we put our foot down they see they no longer have control over us and they don't like it at all!

Marisol- I am glad that you are seeing small changes. Everything you said about keeping strong is true regardless of the outcome. I know that our friends and family will be not be happy if we take our H's back, but remember this is your life and you need to do what makes you happy! I believe in saving my M and all of us do or we would not be here. We all support you and if you want your M it is ok to fight for it and love your H unconditionally. No family member or friend knows what we are going through unless they have gone through it themselves.

Hope- I am so sorry that the move is happening. I know how difficult it is. Stay strong and do your DB, easier said than done. You are already taking GAL by going out with new friends. I have asked my H a few times to watch my D's on a night that he does not have them and he has told me both times he already has plans. It must be nice to not have any responsibility and do whatever you want. Once again this must be another great idea from the "book" they are reading!

TxMom- I have no idea what is wrong with our these men. My H's OW is 21! He brings her around my D's. I can't stand this but I really hope my girls give her a hard time to really see what she is getting into. Yes, they are cute and all but they don't just visit they are always going to be around. What type of woman would want to date a married man with children. We need to pray for these OW as well. They need help themselves!

Everyone hold strong, be patient, and I will pray for all of us here!