Here here, separated, need advice

[istherehope]

Hi Selina,

I'd say to trust what your gut tells you. If you really, really want to move on then you can. From what you've told me, the situation doesn't sound all that different than many of the others on the board that HAVE turned out well.

I'd HIGHLY recommend talking to a DB coach. Therapists are often not incredibly pro-marriage, and will suggest moving on because they are thinking only of short-term happiness.

In terms of what you just added about affection and then being pushed away, this is normal too. I use the word normal loosely, because I mean normal in this kind of situation.

I'd also suggest, if you want to get more responses to your post, that you look at other threads that are similar to your own and start posting on them. Someone gave me this advice when I was a newcomer, and it's really helped. I think that it's so much easier to give advice to someone else, because you are detached from the situation. Doing this can also help you see your own sitch a bit more clearly. It's nice too because then you develop kind of a "buddy network" on the boards, and it honestly does help you to stay strong.

ITH