Hi DbyD,

I agree with Deauxlie, your feelings are normal. Trust is very hard to build again. A retro weekend would be the most helpful thing you could do to get past this time of being half together, half not sure. Check the website for a weekend near you, http://www.helpourmarriage.org. Communication is essential, but you need to learn to communicate in a non-threatening way. And that doesn't come naturally to most people.