It sucks not being able to control the fate of your own marriage. Maybe there is something magic that could be done with your W to help her change her mind, but only she might know that. I dont know, but it just seems unsafe to be trying experiments like bombarding her with flowers as you get too close to the D date. Maybe while you were married happily, such random mysterious surprises may have excited her, but now she may feel like you are stalking her.
Try to put yourself in her shoes - she has told you that she does not love you anymore and I bet she has her pride on being right. She may start having some doubts as the D date draws closer, but she still has up some pretty thick walls. Your pursuing is only going to have her feel like you are not listening to her wishes to live a separated life.
You have it tough because she has so distanced herself from you that it is hard for her to see you in any new light.
And there is the possibility that as more time goes by and some more evidence presents itself that she has a boyfriend, that you may finally lose your own commitment to your vows.
Tostada, I dont know if I would feel any different if I was in your shoes. The difference is my W crossed my line of tolerance too many times. You are a good man and great father to have weathered this storm for so long. You have a couple months to go and I hope she faces up to her stubborn pride. Otherwise, you are going to have to accept that you must move on as a divorced man.
