[Don't EVER think that the last 20 years was a waste. You have WONDERFUL children and you have learned a hell of a lot from the sh*t you have gone through. I'm finding this out. I felt the same way, but now feel that my girlies are my lasting legacy. They were born out of love and I will never forget that. I now consider this a learning experience. I can't control her. I can only try to stack the blocks more in my favor. Either way, you and I will come out just fine. We're still fighting for what we want because we choose to.
You are right. At the wedding the other night I told the mother of the groom that the best part of me and H were sitting right there. My kids have made all of this worthwhile.
I have to believe that there is a lesson in all of this for me too. I'm getting a better idea about what it is, and I'll tell you when I'm sure.
I have decided recently that I will be fine too no matter what and the best part is, now I KNOW its true. It feels good.
I'm now doing this because I want to, not because I have to. I truly want to be his friend because I'm a better person for it. I have to show my kids what it is to be a good person, even when others aren't. Treat others as you would have them treat you.
Thanks H4H...
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
