Lifes got to always be messing with me...

[kat727]

Sweetie you are going to be fine. You have stayed so strong throughout this whole thing. I am so glad to be the comic relief for you guys with my little SF problem. I am so glad I found all of you.

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

Thanks Kat. It was so strange. Then having him tell me that song reminds him of "us", it was all just a little much.

Don't quite know how to deal!

[kat727]

He realizes that you complete each other. You are interconnected and need each other. Romantic but he needs to get his azz beside you and walk away from the troll.

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

He realizes that you complete each other. You are interconnected and need each other. Romantic but he needs to get his azz beside you and walk away from the troll.
kat

My whole point exactly. Everything is a contradiction.

I do love that song though.

Thanks Kat.

[hopeful4her]

Tell him to quit messing with your head. I don't like how he is playing with your emotions.

Thats how I'm seeing it.

How can he be saying that he has an obligation to her and the baby. Where's his F'ing obligation to you and ya'lls kids. I hope he is coming out of his fog. It appears so, but I don't think that EVERYTHING should hinge on the birth of this baby.

I'm sorry Suga. But one day this, one day that. He keeps drawing you in. It is SO hard to trust the things that these dingle berries say. I just don't want to see you hurting and confused.

I lika you too mucha.

[Sugar and Spice]

How can he be saying that he has an obligation to her and the baby. Where's his F'ing obligation to you and ya'lls kids.

Thats what I'm sayin'!

I lika you too mucha.

Thanks. Thats was sweet. Maybe I'm just reading WAY too much into everything today. Who the hell knows.

Again, it would just be so damn nice to move onto the next step, no matter what it is.

[hopeful4her]

I completely understand. You and me are cut from the same cloth. You see what I'm still trying to do with my goofy goober. Like you, I wish it would just go one way or another.

I'm sure I've got a long haul in front of me. You and your H just spend to much time in touch with each other. Seeing each other, talking on the phone, texting.

Talking so much about "them".

I don't know if I could to that. I think if I did that and posted it, everyone would come by and be swinging lumber at me.

Okay, maybe just Puppy and attorneytom

[Sugar and Spice]

You and your H just spend to much time in touch with each other. Seeing each other, talking on the phone, texting.

Talking so much about "them".

I don't know if I could to that. I think if I did that and posted it, everyone would come by and be swinging lumber at me.

Okay, maybe just Puppy and attorneytom

I know we do but because we are a lot alike, you know where I'm coming from. I have to try and maintain some sort of civility and friendship. If I don't I feel like the last 20 years of my life was just a waste. I also know that my H doesn't have anyone to turn to and I just can't to that to a friend. Stupid, but I can't, I never have been able to.

I post it, because its whats going on. I guess I could lie, but then what would be the point of coming here? You lay it on the line as well. I try not to swing too much lumber at you, because I really get where you are coming from.

II think if I did that and posted it, everyone would come by and be swinging lumber at me.
Okay, maybe just Puppy and attorneytom

Puppy only posts periodically (I think he thinks I'm a lost cause) and Attorneytom not at all...so I guess I'm safe for now.

[hopeful4her]

I know we do but because we are a lot alike, you know where I'm coming from. I have to try and maintain some sort of civility and friendship. If I don't I feel like the last 20 years of my life was just a waste. I also know that my H doesn't have anyone to turn to and I just can't to that to a friend. Stupid, but I can't, I never have been able to.

I know, we are. But I was taking a lot of advice on here. Good advice. You could tell how much I wanted to go against it, but still maintained my somewhat darkness with her. Changing it up a bit now.

Don't EVER think that the last 20 years was a waste. You have WONDERFUL children and you have learned a hell of a lot from the sh*t you have gone through. I'm finding this out. I felt the same way, but now feel that my girlies are my lasting legacy. They were born out of love and I will never forget that.

I now consider this a learning experience.

I can't control her. I can only try to stack the blocks more in my favor.

Either way, you and I will come out just fine. We're still fighting for what we want because we choose to.

[Sugar and Spice]

[Don't EVER think that the last 20 years was a waste. You have WONDERFUL children and you have learned a hell of a lot from the sh*t you have gone through. I'm finding this out. I felt the same way, but now feel that my girlies are my lasting legacy. They were born out of love and I will never forget that.
I now consider this a learning experience.
I can't control her. I can only try to stack the blocks more in my favor.
Either way, you and I will come out just fine. We're still fighting for what we want because we choose to.

You are right. At the wedding the other night I told the mother of the groom that the best part of me and H were sitting right there. My kids have made all of this worthwhile.

I have to believe that there is a lesson in all of this for me too. I'm getting a better idea about what it is, and I'll tell you when I'm sure.

I have decided recently that I will be fine too no matter what and the best part is, now I KNOW its true. It feels good.

I'm now doing this because I want to, not because I have to. I truly want to be his friend because I'm a better person for it. I have to show my kids what it is to be a good person, even when others aren't. Treat others as you would have them treat you.

Thanks H4H...