First regarding the Secret...It's actually something I totally forgot about until I was reading your posts about the Secret: When we first moved in to our home I would always picture a pool right outside our kitchen window. It seemed next to impossible that we'd ever have a pool since we were in hawk up to our butts with the house. Funny thing is....we DID have a pool put in about 1 1/2 years ago and it looks exactly how I pictured it in my mind. Again...just remembered that.
Second, my H also threw some pretty low blows at me regarding kids. In my early 30's he wanted to have another child and I was in to my career and wasn't sure I wanted anymore children. Recently, however, I had been the one pushing for more children. When he left he threw it in my face that me not wanting to have kids with him before hurt him very deeply and that I had ruined it for him and HE DIDN'T WANT ANY MORE KIDS WITH ME! It's all so very sad, my window of opportunity is closing rapidly