I am really sorry that the whole messed has gotten postponed. How traumatic for d16. How is she coping? I am sure this is terrible on you too, not just as a parent but being in law enforcement and seeing what they all have to go through. Hugs to you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I am really sorry that the whole messed has gotten postponed. How traumatic for d16. How is she coping? I am sure this is terrible on you too, not just as a parent but being in law enforcement and seeing what they all have to go through. Hugs to you.
kat
Me too.. So sorry for you and your D. I haven't gone through that, but I have a D8 and I can't even imagine. Karen
that is just sad that it got postponed, I am sure it isnt easy on her at all. I find it interesting that since your wife is now jealous of you dating, she doesnt want to give you your key back lol, its amazing how you arent, yet she cant handle the thought that you are. that part of affairs amazes me! I think its great your relationship with the D's. and of course you wouldnt walk away from them, just because she is walking to another man, its a good thing they have you around to see what a real man is! happy tuesday!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Like me, S14 is actually my step son, but I've been around since he was 6 months. To me, he is my son. I was a little stricter with him, but thats because he is a boy.
Good job staying out of the pit. Sometimes, I wouldn't mind a good throw down with the wife myself, but I resist it.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Today has been one of those days. Just to much stuff going on the last couple days and finally got to me.
D11 told me last night that SIL and H are getting back together. Her H went nuts and tried to run SIL off the road and has a bad alcohol problem. Amazing things do happen.
I got the same letter from W L again last night. Guess he wants to make sure I got it. Got to go see my L in a couple hours. My paycheck was short due to a doctor bill my W did not pay and they garnished my check for it.
I went over to work my part time job and do some things at the house. W car was there and I did not want to deal with her so I spent the morning around town talking with other people.
I did stop to drop off D11's clothes. Looks like she may have gotten a little drunk last night. The grill was out, an almost empty 30 pack on the front porch and an unknown lawnmower in the yard. When I dropped the clothes off the W was still in bed that was around 1100.
When I was making my final rounds through town I looked up the street and saw that OM truck was there loading up the lawnmower. Confrontation averted though. I don't care what the W does anymore, irks me he was doing stuff at the house I still pay for.
The whole jealous thing from the W has been ongoing. My IC said to expect to see her want to reconcile when I am over her and start dating again. I do try and set a good example for the girls. The older one is messed up beyond anything I can do(other issues between her and me), so I focus mostly on D11.
None of this bs is going to keep me down for long. I will only get stronger and I have to much life to look forward to living.
Seether "Rise Above This" I'll mend myself before it gets me I've fallen down but I'll rise above this, rise above this
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
The whole jealous thing from the W has been ongoing. My IC said to expect to see her want to reconcile when I am over her and start dating again. I do try and set a good example for the girls. The older one is messed up beyond anything I can do(other issues between her and me), so I focus mostly on D11.
Yeah, I agree with your IC. At that point she will probably realize she is losing or lost you and that the grass isn't greener, etc. I do think they think we will always be there for them. When I went to a party a couple months ago, H was very upset about it and that is just weird. But then at that point you will decide if she is the right choice for you or not. As time goes on, I find it less likely that I would reconcile. I think sometimes the LBS will do better than the WAS in the long-term you know?
I try to set a good example too, feeling that almost I have to make up for H's bad example. And I always hope they will follow my example, and so far they mostly seem to thank goodness!!! I think kids learn mostly by watching what their parents are doing, and I think some parents don't realize that maybe... Karen
That's because we aren't the ones that went crazy. Even though we were emotionally messed up, we didn't walk away from everything and think that it was fine and dandy.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I think kids learn mostly by watching what their parents are doing, and I think some parents don't realize that maybe... Karen