My heart goes out to you. It is so difficult to go through what we have and to experience such a devastating loss. I too have lost all my inlaws, associated friends and the family unit. Never in my whole life did I think that would happen.
My in laws have embraced OW and involve her in family activities as well as trips. It is like 20 years of dedication evaporated. It is so painful, but I want to say that eventually people start seeing the truth to the situation. My in-laws have seen my ex and his OW fight and argue. They see my ex taking no responsibility or blame for his adultery. They are beginning to see some of his MLC's behaviors. Though they will never know the pain or have heard the MLC's words and phrases that we have experienced, they will eventually see some of the truth.
I trully believe that God will help you through this and open new doors for you and bring new people into your life as long as you act according to his ways. It sounds like you have handled yourself beautifully and with grace. You have protected your children. Take care of yourself and know that your life will get better. I never thought I would feel better, but I do. I can even laugh and smile again.
Take Care, Trusting
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
