No financial loss, no public ostracism, no losing friends (maybe a couple of my friends but he doesn't view this as a loss), no consequences with family, no issues at work.
I will experience an enormous financial loss as well as losing future financial security. I have lost at least one "friend" and others, who were either "couple" friends of ours or really his friends prior to the marriage. I will experience some type of loss of his family - to be determined, I guess. I had to quit my job (I worked with H) and find something new.
And, to be honest with you, I struggle with this. I don't dwell on this much anymore because heading down the "life isn't fair" road is just a trip to nowhere. Yes, I would like him to feel a little bit of the pain that he has caused me and others. But dwelling on it....it just doesn't help.
You have a good vibe. I have carried the weight and I have kept his dirty little secrets. I honestly don't know if I am the silent suffering LBS. You have given me something to think about. But I will tell you that my kids are doing okay. And if it is because I have kept my mouth shut, even just a little bit, then it is worth it.
Thanks, Theoden for your comments. I appreciate them.
