John, I had a friend point out to me the disconnect between the unconscious motivations and the self-image and how it can lead to some very strange behaviors. For instance, I think that my wife wants to run away from the responsibilities of being a wife and mother, but, her self-image can in no way support that thought so she rationalizes away her behavior and may feel like she has to fight me for custody of the kids otherwise her self-image will be tarnished even though she may at an unconscious level want to be free from the responsibility.
So, there may be unconscious motivations that cause some odd behavior.
