Are we piecing yet?

[kiwi000]

Hi Lanzo, great advice. I only read your earlier post after the trip.... WAW told me last night that she felt smothered, she couldn't promise me anything and in her mind the only reason there could be any urgency was b/c I had someone else and had to make a choice between her and WAW. WAW said this was no different to an ultimatum.

I acehived some great 180's by being calm, not needy and thanking her for sharing her thoughts with me. That's the good news.

The bad news is that somehow we got onto splitting the assets and I said I'd rather the lawyers did that. This became a calm but hard conversation where WAW told me 'you have to do what you have to do, everyone has a right to be happy'.

I said that it was true. I told her that my having someone else is not a factor but that 16 months after seperation, I needed to get an idea of where her head is at. she replied that she's working on some issues which are selfish issues and can't see beyond that. I should go and be happy.

This is where I was an idiot and thanked her for that; that I took her comment as read and would get on with my life.

The convo ended with discussion about what assets would go where and an agreement to let the lawyers deal with it this week.

I really wish I had read your post first Lanzo b/c I lost sight of acting as if and not putting pressure on.

so, how do I recover from this? keep GAL, backing off? is that advice still current given the sitch above?

BTW, I am pretty OK with myself right now. I have GAL, I am fit again. Maybe I've been getting too much attention from other women and I must admit I have enjoyed that.