The cycle is of her distancing and becoming cold when there is contact with OM .. follow by a gradual warming up to me now over several weeks of effort from me to try to draw her closer and the lack of contact with OM.
I think it's great that you know what this pattern is!
While I recognize my role in the cycle that keeps drawing her back through my efforts, its a cycle that I'm stuck in because I'm not in control to break it, except to totally walk away from it myself.
Unless I'm reading it wrong, your surprise wake-up cut this cycle short.
