TxMom, I was on the fence about exposure, but this weekend I exposed my H to my 2 Ds -D15 and D28 and also my SIL. Then I told my H that they knew and told me I was crazy till I pulled up his phone records of all the 27 hours of calling to each other including weekends to OW. H was floored. H is now worried i have Private investigator, which I have neither denied. My H is moving out this week and we both work at the same place including OW (works for my H!), but I cannot expose here yet because I just posted for a new position and I do not want all of this sleazy behavior affect me getting an interview. Once interview is settled, because of the situation of both getting fired, I cannot name OW, but what my plan is to tell my co-workers that my H left me and has moved out. We have had issues with our M BUT he is also experiencing a MLC which unfortunately includes unacceptable behavior which has really upset his family. Then the gossip will start and you know they will be watching his actions on a daily basis and it will be easy to figure out who the OW is.
Right now everyone thinks we get along great so no-one is paying attention to what H is doing at work. It will be a shock
Since the exposure - H has apologized to me numerous times and H is feeling very sad, depressed AND accountable that he has exposed his Ds to this. The Ds also know who the OW which is really the worst of it for H. I agree it has definitely taken away some of the excitement of the A.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
