How do you treat a serious life threatening injury? How do the treatments change as the wound heals? What do you do to monitor it? How long does it take to get better? How do you modify expectations?
If two people were trying to dance around a big ole elephant that hurt them both, who do you blame? What is blaming worth? Do you shoot the elephant?
My brother keeps asking me, "Do you think anything's going to change while you're beating that dead horse?" Of course I get a tad annoyed but eventually hear what he's saying.
Forgiveness is forgiving. Your actions say more than words.