Thanks for all the great imput and you guys weren't all that far off as to how it all broke down.

I can see in my irksome haste in posting yesterday, I wasn't a clear I could be ... it seems was the same with CAW too. So to clarify some ...

This friend of hers is also a co-worker and CAW mentioned to her that she needed to talk to her about some changed in the upcoming school year. Friend didn't like left to ponder it and wanted to talk soonest which was Monday, but CAW didn't agree to it and afterwards even told me she might let her linger a couple more days ...

so when I watched the weather forecast the evening before and I suggested taking the day off so we can go on a picnic or something... She said nothing, I took as acceptance of my suggestion, so I decided to take the day off. After I called into work in the morning, CAW's friend call to see when they would get together. I heard CAW say I am home taking another vacation day and there was no mention of agreement or disagreeing for that matter) to get together on that day, so that just re-enforced my conception that she was going with my suggestion, which is why I was caught off guard when she said she was going to see friend & shop.

So the breakdown was when I had expressed my intension, I expected it to be the precursor to CAW voicing her intentions. Since she didn't I took it as she agreed to my suggestions and based my exectation on that. She doesn't see it that way! By not saying anything she felt she was leaving her options open. When I asked last night why did she just give some sort of response so I didn't have to search or mindread her thoughts, she just shrugged her shoulders!

So even after talking last night she really didn't see any shortcomings on her behalf and I was left feeling like I was left having make all the changes by assuming nothing ... making sure I ask all the question to cover all the bases or just don't intiate spending another day together and leave it to her to suggest it. I feel much like jethro, why could she just make a little effort by saying what's on her mind? How can one improve communication when the other doesn't see a need on her behalf to even communicate anything?

Is it really testing me or is it manipulating the outcome to try to bring back the old behaviors. This lack of effort / desire to work on her shortcomings is really getting aggravating which is testing my patience and self-control. It seems so needless!! Why put us in that position, when all she would need to do is speak out. I make it a point to voice my intentions as much as possible so she doesn't have to make as many assumptions, all I'm asking is for her to do the same.

Sue, she is sure trying to hold on to her POV that she is on a "short chain", and uses these scenarios to fuel that perception. (Remeber the Walmart incident a couple of weeks ago) and trys to muddle up the real issue, which is to please let me know before she picks up her keys and heads for the door ... or in another words ... be a little more respectful and considerate when she wants to go out.

Well, now I'm back to work, so hopefully I'll now have time to do a little catching up on ya all...

The downside of taking a week off is its gonna take another week to catch up on everyone, but am looking forward to it...

'til later,
KAW