Hey friend - two words for you : "Whoooaaa Nellie!"
Look, I can empathize with you on the frustration and the PMA battle. I've been going through this the better part of 8 months, and there are times I want off the roller coaster so bad I can't stand it.
But I'll repeat to you Michelle's wise test that sage and workinghard must always remind me - is your planned discussion likely to move you closer or further from your goal?
Now, I know you're probably mad enough right now to say that your goal is to end this thing, you've had enough. But deep down, you know that's just your hurt and frustration taking control of you.
And another piece of advice I received recently from a wise DBer named KAW went something like this: when the WAS is on the fence, that might just poke you with the stick to see if the beast can be roused again - they're making sure it's really dead and not just sleeping.
Is it possible she's just poking you with the stick?
Take it easy - see if she'll watch your D( tonight and you go to the gym and work out your frustration till your exhausted. Then wait a day or two more. If you still need to talk to her about it, at least you'll likely be calmer. But maybe you won't and you'll have moved on. In the meantime you can think of behaviors that YOU can do differently that might preclude your W from doing something like this again.
Bottom line from me - wait, cool off before having a talk with her. Your gut is telling you this too, I'm guessing, since you started by doing the right thing by coming here to vent.
