Hey, have you ever given her reason to be so jealous. I am amazed at how she grills you on this. SHE is the one cheating on you.
I too, am glad that everything turned out alright the other night. You can never know. EVERY call could be a life or death sitch. Has to be unerving.
It is a strange feeling, knowing that we can control our emotions a bit more. Some ups and downs but not as extreme. Can't imagine how I'll react when and if I get papers.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
It is a strange feeling, knowing that we can control our emotions a bit more. Some ups and downs but not as extreme. Can't imagine how I'll react when and if I get papers.
I was feeling really strong but when I got them it was still really, really hard. And H gave me no warning which made it harder too I think. At least he mailed them and didn't have the sheriff deliver them!!! I don't think they should be allowed to do that to anyone!!! But the positive thing was that was something that helped me to detach further: H moving out, getting the papers, I imagine the D hearings will do that also... Trying to look at it like it's a business thing, like they say to, but it's harder sometimes than others!!! Karen
Deep down, you STILL have feelings for him. I can see it. I see you being strong. Standing up to him more. Glad you took mine and Pups advice on what you do when he is around.
You still have hope, don't you?
The problem is, karen, that he just keeps on treating you like sh*t. From what you post, he is just a complete ass. You deserve so much better. I hate to say that to people. I WANT marriages to work out, but doggone. He is relentless in how he treats you and I'm sure others agree.
But in the end, you are who you are. You shouldn't accept being married to a loser, though. Your too good for that.
Sorry for the rant yenko.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Deep down, you STILL have feelings for him. I can see it. I see you being strong. Standing up to him more. Glad you took mine and Pups advice on what you do when he is around.
You still have hope, don't you?
Yes, I still have feelings for him. I'm obviously a little bit crazy like he is I guess! How could you tell??? I guess that's why I still get bothered so much sometimes. But my head tells me I deserve better, someone nice, and I won't go back to being treated like dirt. I really mean that!
I used to think he was strong and I was weak, but in some ways I think lately that maybe it's the other way around, not that I'm that strong but stronger than him anyway. Yeah, if he came back tomorrow and said it's over with OW and I'll go to MC and I want a 2nd chance, I would probably say yes, but wouldn't we all? And I really don't think that would happen plus him transforming into a decently nice guy. It would be a total miracle, and I don't think those happen very often. As it is now, I know that I'll be better off without him and it did take me a long time, like last week or something, until I realized that....Karen (and now we return your thread back to you Yenko! Please feel free to come over and hijack mine--we all seem to do that sometimes!!!
BG- got a real kick out of what your D did. Laughed really hard about it. Things like that are what make life so great. Your H comforting you while OW was looking is also priceless.
Dan- I like all those songs. I am pretty varied with music. I have always like Disturbed, they are a good band. The Game, yes it is pretty appropriate sometimes. I can agree about focusing on some songs, others tend to drag me down.
H4H- No, never gave her a reason to be jealous. It is just how she is. Calls like that don't unnerve me for some reason. Made me mad but the other guy had the best intentions, just did not know what I was doing. As far as your rant it was good. Love a guy that could type out doggone on a thread. Ah Texas, what a place. It is a strange feeling, especially after all the extreme up and downs.
Karen-Sorry it came out of the blue. I have served D papers and it is bad all around. I think we all a little bit crazy, if not we would all be insane. I read your thread just have not posted on it yet. Your H is jackass. I am glad you came to realize that you are better off without him. I am coming to the same conclusion, even some of W family says the same thing. Hijack anytime you want.
W did call later in the day. That is for another post. Son's of Anarchy is on, good show.
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A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
My W did call yesterday afternoon and asked what I wanted. I told her just to bring D11's clothes to court today. She was a little snippy.
Then she started crying. It was pretty much the standard stuff. She hurt because not I go out and do things and did not with her, never happy in the seven years we have been together, why did it take so long to change ect. It was still all about her and how much she hurt. I should have just hung up.
The only difference was how I responded. I did not argue about her emotions, but I did throw the truth back at her from time to time. I agreed with some things. I put her on the spot about her D me and having an A. She did try and bait me with the well what about. She tried a few times so I just shut her down with the truth.
I found it interesting that she said that our M was an experiment for me so that I could figure things out and make someone else happy. She actually said that twice.
The thing that irritated me was at the end. Would I still be there for D11. If I find someone else would I abandon her. How many weekends have I taken her. That she knows it is always at conveniance of the father figure and she realizes that. Then she said she had to go and hung up.
D11 is actually a SD but I have been around her since she was four so she sees me as her dad. The girls real dad is scumbag that hardly sees them or talks to them. He did at one time choose a woman over the kids.
I am sure that played into it. My w's dad also abandoned her when she was little. It is still not an excuse to say that kind of crap to me. Some people would just say they are your kids and walk out on all of them at this point.
It is not in me to abandon her, even though there is no biology there. I have always treated both of them as my D's for the past seven years and I am not going to stop now.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
I guess the part I forgot was she threw in some more jealousy. It started with me seeing someone then led to my friends trying to get me date. She has heard the rumors. That was what "dinner" was about the other day.
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I am amazed at how she grills you on this. SHE is the one cheating on you.
I sometimes wonder if she will figure that out.
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A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
They love to shift all the blame on to the faithful spouse. If we had done this or that better this never would have happened don't you know. I don't think they would recognize the truth if it came and bit them on the azz.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I don't think they would recognize the truth if it came and bit them on the azz.
Yep, that sounds about right.
I just got back from the pre-trial. I looked good and smelled good. It is rare that I wear cologne so I figured I would put some on for the occasion.
The CA did not get some of the documents to the judge and defense attorney. So the whole thing got postponed until October 30. This thing keeps dragging out.
I did sit by my W but we really did not talk a whole lot. Just pretty much about what was going on. I guess I am detached, when I was with her I really did not feel anything. I seem to see her in a different light now. It was kind of odd.
We went outside to get D11's clothes and the W was being a little snippy at me. She had a letter from her L that she was going to give me, but I told her that I got one on Sat. Then she showed me D11's progress reports, proud to say all A's except for two B's.
Then I asked if for my apartment key back and that I was going out to my mom and dads and was giving them the key. Her response "You still have a key to the house, you seem to go there whenever you want to." I told her I just go there to get my stuff and work on the house. It was the whole if looks could kill, glad she had on sunglasses. Kat, if you looked north you may have seen a small mushroom cloud. WTF she think since she is D me, probable don't want to know.
I almost lost my temper with her. I started to jump into the pit but caught myself. I had asked her something else and she got real b!tched up, so I just said never mind and started to walk off. She asked why I had to be so rude. I told her I just asked a simple question and why did she have to jump all over my case about it. Finally she answered and told her thanks and left.
I got D11 tonight so it should be fun. Taking her out to my parents. My brother and nephew are going to be there and I have not seen them for a little while.
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A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
