Dancing in a minefield...

[Jamesjohn]

so I decided to extend my vacation by one more day and told CAW we could do a picnic or something like that.

Devil's advocate here buddy, but is this the exact way you said it?

Did you phrase this as an invitation to her where she could accept or decline, or maybe a "this is what I'd like to do, what do you think?"

It ALMOST sounds to me like you got some communication wires crossed here. This has happened to me many of times, and I've gotten the same, disappointing results. My wife and I have to be pretty direct and clear before hand with what we expect from the day, and make sure that we're on the same track.

then I'm contemplating bringing it up this evening how I felt about it. Those kind of talk usually don't go well, but I need to find a way to approach this stuff...

If you think that what I wrote above may have some merit, just let her know that when you said ........ , what you really meant was ...... , and that you're sorry if she may have heard something different. I wouldn't go into any "feelings" things, maybe keep it directed more towards a better way of communicating type of arena.

Then, I would just drop it, and go on to tell her what a genuinely fun time you had with D9 today, and some of the fun stuff you did together! (With NO sarcasm or guilt trips behind it about the fact that she wasn't there )

JMHO