Thanks. I am better today. I was better yesterday, actually. I am trying to work this all out in my head--it's the only way I can deal with it. I sure can't change H or what he's chosen to do, and in ways I need to know what I've lost. It seems less now than it did in the beginning.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012