Dancing in a minefield...

[Jamesjohn]

If I understand your question correctly JJ, you are asking what have I been doing lately that has brought her back more to participating more in R.

Yup, you got it, buddy! Great answers!!

I've found that sometimes I have gotten so wrapped up in "taking care" of my wife, "shielding" and protecting her from some of life's everday problems, that I've done both her, and our relationship, a disservice.

I have had to do some things lately that have made her realize that she has to "step up to the plate" when it comes to "real-life" stuff, and it hasn't been real pleasant at times. However, the means has been justifying the ends.

Keep in touch with your intentions of your actions, and you should come out with good stuff in the end!