Lin Thank you for stopping in on my thread. It is always good to hear from someone who has saved their marriage and is still out there to let others on the site know.
In reading my thread, I think you..and others, get the idea that my wife and I are actually at a point where we are working on the marriage together, which really is not true.
Although we are getting along well and having some very good times together, she has not reached a point where she is willing to tell me she has given up on an eventual separation. Other than a rare reminder from her, there has not really been much talk about the relationship, the marriage or her ultimate goal in all of this anymore.
If you read my more recent posts, that is what most of my drama is all about....wanting to hear the words from her and not believing that her actions could be telling me something that she just might not be ready to vocalize.
Your suggestions for communication, GAL, space and time for each other..together and separately are exactly what I would like to be working on with her as a goal for out future together. My GAL and space allowances are still off quite a bit....detaching still a big stumbling block for me, because we have stayed co close during this post bomb time together....very confusing for me from the start.
Did your husband ever come out and say that he wanted to work on the marriage, or just slowly come back to you without much talk of what was going on?....have to go check out your old threads...looks like you have been around for a while. Good to see another veteran staying around to help us out.
